Becoming more resilient

Becoming more resilient

What is resilience?

Resilience is the process of adapting in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress. Resilience effectively means "bouncing back" from difficult experiences and learning to cope with them.

Resiliency is something that everyone can possess and it is something that can be built up over time, allowing you to become even more capable of dealing with situations.

Ways to help build your resilience


  • Support - Good relationships with close family members, friends or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based organizations, or other local groups provides social support and can help with reclaiming hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.


  • Avoid seeing problems as the end of the world - You can't change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you respond to these events. Try looking beyond the problem to when you can see yourself feeling a little better about the situation. Think about all the things that could possibly help you through it.


  • Accept that change is a part of life - Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.


  • Move toward your goals - Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly, even if it seems like a small thing, that enables you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, "What's one thing I know I can do today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?"


  • Take action - Act on those bad situations as much as you can. Rather than ignoring problems and hoping they will go away, try facing them head on.


  • Be positive about yourself - Developing confidence in your own ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.


  • Maintain an optimistic approach - An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.


  • Take care of yourself - Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Taking care of yourself helps your body to function and in turn will make you more able to cope.